Lucy, You Got Some 'Splainin To Do....

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So, um, I broke up with Anthony on Thursday, but you knew that.
I guess I kind of owe everyone an explanation, and this is easier and faster than becoming famous and having them make a Lifetime Movie of the Week about the whole thing. What it boils down to is that I'm really really really really not ready to be married yet, or, more importantly, monogamous, and I don't want to wake up when I'm 80 and resent him because I never got to date.
This seems like such a small, shallow thing (dating people), but in my life right now, it's huge.

These past four days have really been the longest of my life. It feels like Thursday and Friday were two years, instead of a day and a half. A lot of people seem to be upset with me right now, and the only one I understand is Anthony. Aimee says that, usually, when people break up, you can say that both parties contributed to the break up, and that this is all on me. That's absolutely true, but I don't understand why there has to be a villan in this situation at all. We broke up, but we're still friends. Hell, as of Saturday, we're dating. This may not be the wisest course of action that either of us have ever taken, but we're young, and that's what young folk do. That, and have really great sex at the words "This morning, I got sucked off by a complete stanger." Why that should turn me on so is at the bottom of a very long list of things to figure out about myself.

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[cikevin.livejournal.com]

In my experience, when a relationship that looks good from the outside breaks up, the one who initiated the breakup is generally seen as the villain. We want there to be a villain because it makes an easier story in our heads. "Friend X is upset because Y broke up with him/her. I'll assume that anyone who upsets one of my friends must be evil, even if it's another of my friends. Therefore, Y is evil." The actual complexity of the story is lost because we don't know all those details that would show both people as flawed but well-intended.

I'm not angry with you. I was just taken completely by surprise. I'm sure you both will go on to have happiness in other romantic arrangements, whatever they may be.

Really, my main worry in this situation is about one of you leaving Rocky. You're both very valuable members of our cast and it would be a blow to us to lose either of you.