Gay Men Have No Morals
May. 6th, 2008 02:55 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
thepnutgallerySaturday - Woke up fairly early, put on a pot of coffee, made tofu scramble, and did the dishes. Ken laid in bed awhile, declined the scramble, and laid in bed some more. There was talk of having over a friend, but no one was really awake yet. We were both logged in (different browsers), and I was reading through some of his messages when a conversation from yesterday popped out at me.
One of the gents he'd been talking to asked him about safety (his profile didn't specify), and Ken answered that he tops bare, but is safe as a bottom. Rather than say anything to him, I just left the message up for him to find. We went in circles for a while, and while I'm still not breaking up with him, I do wonder if I'm not the puppy on the electric floor. I do recognize that there's very little chance for reinfection as a top, but it's not nil (like with a condom), so this becomes a very serious issue. We talked a lot about it, but I don't know what to do.
Anyway, after putting it off for most of the morning, he finally decides to head into work at about 1, only he wants me to go with, to run errands afterwards. I'd had errands of my own to run, but acquiesce. Got caught up on online comics, started updating my LJ, that sort of thing. When he finished there (just a little over an hour), we stopped by Frog's for a new membership card for me, and then went home. Ken had been hoping that one of our friends would have messaged us by then, but no one did, so we just went home. I was kind of cranky at this point, having gotten zero alone time, for no reason. Ken also felt bad, so I tried not to be a raging bitch about it. Back at home, we laid down, and ended up having mighty decent sex. I hate that I had to stop things to get ready, but I can't be ready 100% of the time if I'm with him 100% of the time. After that, he napped a bit, I played on the computer and then joined him. When we woke up, we messaged the usual suspects, and the first person to get back to us was Matt, so we packed up and headed up his way. It was a fun night - Ken did most of the DJing, I didn't eat or drink too much, and we just chatted. There was a little awkwardness, because Matt has a new roommate in the place where we used to sleep, but there's still a guest room....except that the guest room is also home to the (EXTREMELY NOISY) fish tank, so we ended up in the living room.
Sunday - Woke up, laid in bed as long as possible, and finally got up and got things ready. Went to the store with Matt for brunch items, then had mimosas with the boys in the back yard. I actually opted not to drink, but did enjoy peoples company. The biggest shock was finding out that Matt had gone home with Chris and Brandon a couple weeks back....then lied to Allen about his activities there. WTF people. Ken and I talked about it in the car - he's very slippery on the issue, all "not our business, not our place" type stuff. Matt telling us made it our busines, and having been in Allen's shoes, I would want my friends to have my back, not "Not get involved". I'm going to talk to Allen about what arrangements they have, or maybe I should just let it slip in conversation? Probably the former first, then the latter, depending on his answers. I might wait until after we have sex with Matt, though, because I want that notch. We'll have to see.
Went directly to the airport from Matt's and dropped Ken off. I probably should have gone to Ralphs to get stuff for the PPK swap (they have Tings), but I ended up going home instead. I put stuff away, promised myself I'd do laundry (later), ate some oatmedough, and called Aimee regarding carpooling to rehearsal. I was going to nap, but didn't want to risk oversleeping. Ken called, having arrived at the hotel. Drove over to A&A's early instead. The Adam's Ave. Street faire was still going on, but I totally lucked out and found a space right in front. Chatted with Aimee a bit, drank some Red Stuff, had a couple cookies. It's a small thing, but I was absolutely delighted that, when Anthony got home, he had no qualms about using the same cup. I didn't expect anything less from him, but after Wyatt had that incident with one of his friends.....
Rehearsal went smashingly well - sketches were hilarious, and I stuffed myself ridiculously full of cookies. Got a ride home from Editha, called Jason, who had mentioned hanging out. He was at some sort of meet-up at Cafe Sevilla - I told him he was welcome over after, or if he found something else to do, just to call. I also told him that I wanted to be in bed, asleep by 10:30/11 at the LATEST. He came over after the meetup, drank some booze, and we chatted until 11:03. *sigh* I like that boy, but I won't be entirely unhappy when he goes off to college. No goodnight call from Ken, though I took the phone in to sleep with me.
One of the gents he'd been talking to asked him about safety (his profile didn't specify), and Ken answered that he tops bare, but is safe as a bottom. Rather than say anything to him, I just left the message up for him to find. We went in circles for a while, and while I'm still not breaking up with him, I do wonder if I'm not the puppy on the electric floor. I do recognize that there's very little chance for reinfection as a top, but it's not nil (like with a condom), so this becomes a very serious issue. We talked a lot about it, but I don't know what to do.
Anyway, after putting it off for most of the morning, he finally decides to head into work at about 1, only he wants me to go with, to run errands afterwards. I'd had errands of my own to run, but acquiesce. Got caught up on online comics, started updating my LJ, that sort of thing. When he finished there (just a little over an hour), we stopped by Frog's for a new membership card for me, and then went home. Ken had been hoping that one of our friends would have messaged us by then, but no one did, so we just went home. I was kind of cranky at this point, having gotten zero alone time, for no reason. Ken also felt bad, so I tried not to be a raging bitch about it. Back at home, we laid down, and ended up having mighty decent sex. I hate that I had to stop things to get ready, but I can't be ready 100% of the time if I'm with him 100% of the time. After that, he napped a bit, I played on the computer and then joined him. When we woke up, we messaged the usual suspects, and the first person to get back to us was Matt, so we packed up and headed up his way. It was a fun night - Ken did most of the DJing, I didn't eat or drink too much, and we just chatted. There was a little awkwardness, because Matt has a new roommate in the place where we used to sleep, but there's still a guest room....except that the guest room is also home to the (EXTREMELY NOISY) fish tank, so we ended up in the living room.
Sunday - Woke up, laid in bed as long as possible, and finally got up and got things ready. Went to the store with Matt for brunch items, then had mimosas with the boys in the back yard. I actually opted not to drink, but did enjoy peoples company. The biggest shock was finding out that Matt had gone home with Chris and Brandon a couple weeks back....then lied to Allen about his activities there. WTF people. Ken and I talked about it in the car - he's very slippery on the issue, all "not our business, not our place" type stuff. Matt telling us made it our busines, and having been in Allen's shoes, I would want my friends to have my back, not "Not get involved". I'm going to talk to Allen about what arrangements they have, or maybe I should just let it slip in conversation? Probably the former first, then the latter, depending on his answers. I might wait until after we have sex with Matt, though, because I want that notch. We'll have to see.
Went directly to the airport from Matt's and dropped Ken off. I probably should have gone to Ralphs to get stuff for the PPK swap (they have Tings), but I ended up going home instead. I put stuff away, promised myself I'd do laundry (later), ate some oatmedough, and called Aimee regarding carpooling to rehearsal. I was going to nap, but didn't want to risk oversleeping. Ken called, having arrived at the hotel. Drove over to A&A's early instead. The Adam's Ave. Street faire was still going on, but I totally lucked out and found a space right in front. Chatted with Aimee a bit, drank some Red Stuff, had a couple cookies. It's a small thing, but I was absolutely delighted that, when Anthony got home, he had no qualms about using the same cup. I didn't expect anything less from him, but after Wyatt had that incident with one of his friends.....
Rehearsal went smashingly well - sketches were hilarious, and I stuffed myself ridiculously full of cookies. Got a ride home from Editha, called Jason, who had mentioned hanging out. He was at some sort of meet-up at Cafe Sevilla - I told him he was welcome over after, or if he found something else to do, just to call. I also told him that I wanted to be in bed, asleep by 10:30/11 at the LATEST. He came over after the meetup, drank some booze, and we chatted until 11:03. *sigh* I like that boy, but I won't be entirely unhappy when he goes off to college. No goodnight call from Ken, though I took the phone in to sleep with me.
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